Don’t Call it a Comeback: Misogyny in Modern America–pervasive-misogyny-517335330


It’s no shock that a lot of people want to blame music for the actions of others. It’s also no shock that there is a pushback touting that violence against women and clear acts of misogyny do not come from music. Sure. I’m not trying to argue that. But music, along with images, movies, internet memes, even other legal action (or, rather, inaction, as seen in Massachusetts dismissing charges brought against a man for taking upskirt photos) puts those thoughts into the brains of people, which ultimately change how we view each other. Women become objectified and victimized; men are sometimes vilified, and sometimes honored.

I am not saying that all men ever are at fault here. I am not saying that women do not actively perpetuate misogyny too. We are also humans, and we have faults. But the issue is bigger than hip-hop; it’s deeper than music. Trending on Twitter right now is #LiesToldByFemales. Women are berated in public for breastfeeding (let’s not forget the Victoria’s Secret employees who kicked a nursing mother out of the store). Little girls are berated at public award shows. Even Facebook allows groups dedicated to oppressing women through violence, while not taking any action.

What is at stake? Why does this continue? We, as a society, have to resocialize ourselves. We have to take a step back and recognize that misogyny is a social norm, but it does not have to be. Every day, I experience sexism, and I see other women dealing with it too. We share common experiences; we are comrades in a misogynistic world. When will our brothers join the fight to put an end to this?

“The misogyny that shapes every aspect of our civilization is the institutionalized form of male fear and hatred of what they have denied and therefore cannot know, cannot share: that wild country, the being of women.” –Ursula K. Le Guin

by Catherine McGahan

3 thoughts on “Don’t Call it a Comeback: Misogyny in Modern America

  1. Catherine,

    This post really struck a cord with me. Recently, I haven’t been able to turn on the radio without changing the station because 95% of the songs I hear contain outright and outrageous misogynistic lyrics. Last week, I was driving with my younger sister, age 16, and Jason Derulo’s “Talk Dirty” song came on. I proceeded to point out every sexist lyric because I want my sister to be aware of how the music industry, along with countless other industries, objectify women and demean them. The chorus flat out expresses that he doesn’t need to talk to or understand the women he is interacting with because the only thing he needs to understand is their booty and when they talk dirty because apparently these women are only there for his entertainment and for sex. The actual lyrics are, “Been around the world, don’t speak the language/ But your booty don’t need explaining/ All I really need to understand is/ When you talk dirty to me.” During my discussion with my sister, there ended up being too many lyrics in that song that objectified women for me to keep up with. My sister rolled her eyes when I started discussing sexism and patriarchy, but after exploring the lyrics with her she expressed that she had never noticed how objectifying they were. More discussions about popular music and the themes of patriarchy need to occur today especially with youth who may not see them hidden in plain sight, or sound for that matter.

  2. I can relate to this post as well. I lived in Panama for two years (2012-2014) where comments like “Sexy, I love you” is the only English you will hear a man say to a woman. I got to a point where I expected it and would just wave it off, mumbling… “Yea, yea, I know I am a woman.” There was not really defense I had for it. Some of my counterparts would shout back “How can you love me, you don’t even know me?” So really for me it comes down to freedom of speech but used appropriately- with respect. Just like we are taught not to yell “FIRE” in a movie theater, young men and women need to be educated on respectful comments towards each other.

  3. Because essentially, the world STILL doesn’t care that much for the female of the species. Period. We are still not considered important beyond our sexual or domestic services that can be stolen or given to others. Sounds extreme doesn’t it, but it’s not. It’s the truth.
    And it just hurts to come to grips with it.

    But I do think misogyny made a major comeback thanks in part to cRAP and reality tv and the promotion and normalizing of porn culture. See, we were making headway in the 90’s. So dammit, something had to be done to stop this…I mean the world can’t actually have progress when it comes to women finding true equality and liberation from the oppressive exploitation of patriarchal cultures right?? Sure. So the propaganda begun in the late 90’s and 15 years later, hating women has become a national pastime where boys spend hours online watching women get violently fucked and then go write about how much they hate women for not fucking them on sites like Reddit and Roosh fan pages. Sigh…..
    Hurts too.

    The only consolation is the more and more women are embracing being lesbian, even if just to get away from idiots like that. I’m straight and older but see the chaos of the younger generations stewing in their own venomous hatred of women and anything feministic. Feminists have become the scapegoat for all problems now, even in Germany and Sweden regarding the rape epidemics by Muslim immigrants. I mean, it’s feminists fault on that one.

    Wtf? Arghh….

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