Your education and your life are yours alone. What was given to you, in terms of encouragement and sacrifice, was probably given out of love in order for you to move forward in your life. Your suffering helps no one. It is up to you as an adult to decide how you want use your opportunities to make a contribution to your family and your community. Living for your unique vision of your future does not make you selfish. It makes you realistic, because it is the only sustainable way to live.
2. See That Helpers Like Helping
People attracted to the Helper positions, in which their job is to offer support and guidance, tend to be self-selecting. In other words, generally Helpers are people who like to help. As a professor and mentor, knowing I’ve been a small part of a student’s success in realizing their dream is a great feeling. By accepting help, you are allowing someone else to enjoy being a generous and empowering person.
1. Allow Opportunities to Produce More Opportunities
Each opportunity you have is mostly important because it is a path to greater opportunities. A great high school is a stepping stone to a well-resourced college, which can lead to an internationally known MFA program, etc. Anyone who refuses help increases the likelihood of ruining not just one chance, but all of the other chances that might flow from that one. Taking advantage of the support available to us maximizes future opportunities and our ability to create opportunities for others. Of course we can learn from failure. But we can do a lot more with success.
This April at Progressive Pupil, we celebrate Health and Wellness and have a special series on Afro-Asian Solidarity. Both topics illuminate how powerful we can be when we work together and accept the support we need.
Yours in Solidarity,
Robin J. Hayes, PhD